Romantic Tips to Spice up Your Relationship

Do you find sometimes that your relationship is becoming stagnant? Sometimes when you get comfortable with your special significant other, you can find yourselves missing out on the old romance that brought you together in the first place.

There are a few little things that you can do to put the spark back into the fire and find what it was that brought you together in the first place. Sometimes the little things really do count and you can show each other through the little gestures. Look through some of these suggestions to spice up your relationship and love life.

Things to Do to Spice up Your Relationship

The power of touch

Don’t underestimate the power of touch. If you are not an overly affectionate couple, then it is time to reintroduce touch into your relationship to spice it up. Kiss, hug, and cuddle one another in order to maintain a physical connection. If the mood is right, you can take this up a notch and even engage in a nice massage for each other.

Dress a little sexier

One way to spice things up in a relationship is to dress a little sexier. Is there a favorite shirt or dress that your significant other really likes to see you in? Or maybe even a certain color that they always think looks flattering on you. You can even turn this up a notch by putting on some sexy lingerie in order to spice up your relationship because not everything about your relationship has to be the same old thing.

Take a romantic bath together

Nothing spices up a little romance like running a bath surrounded by lit candles. This sultry gesture will spice up your relationship whether you choose to bathe together or just run a nice relaxing warm bath for your significant other so they can take a load off from their day. The dimmed lights with the glow of flickering candles will also set a romantic mood.

You can also surprise your significant other in the shower or bath. You do not have to be sexual for this to be an intimate and romantic occasion. Something as simple as shampooing each other’s hair or washing one another’s backs can be very sensual. Take your time and enjoy your time together.

Wear his or her favorite cologne

Try wearing some of her favorite cologne or his favorite perfume. Nothing starts up the senses quite like the sense of smell and that lingering scent will be sure to leave a lasting impression to the point of where you will be nuzzled up to one another.

Have a date that is completely unlike any other

Surprise the other with a special date on the rooftop or a random day trip to a fantastic area to take a hike together. Clear your schedule and make a quick weekend getaway or just even make time to go out for coffee on a weekend morning. Make sure you make time to have these dates on a regular basis.

Use you imagination in bedroom

Use your imagination and try something new in your bedroom. You do not always have to be in the same old position or even be yourself. Try a little role playing or even check out Karma Sutra books that can help educate you on tantric positions or ways to conduct foreplay that will blow your partner’s mind and make your relationship even hotter.

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Make out

How long has it been since you actually sat on the couch or in a theater and made out like teenagers? Sometimes just bringing back that thrill of being glued lip to lip is exciting and exhilarating which can be fun and add a little bit of spunk back into your romance.


Drink some wine together. Take a little together time and spend it peacefully talking. Relax with a glass of wine in front of a cozy fireplace or out on a blanket underneath the stars. Just a little bit of wine can help lighten the mood. For non-drinkers, even a sparkling grape juice can be just as romantic. Remember, it is all about who you are with.

Sexy messages

Lighten the mood and be playful throughout the day by sending little flirty or sexy and romantic messages, emails or texts throughout the day. Let your other half know that you are thinking of them. You might even leave a naughty note inside your significant other’s briefcase, laptop bag, in the car, or even on their pillow.

Romantic atmosphere

Set up a living room or a bedroom with just the right tone. Turn down the lights, put on a little bit of music, and spend a little bit of intimate time together. Just the two of you alone, letting the weight of the day just melt away can be a significant distraction and help spice up the love in your romantic life.

Appeal to all of the senses

You do not just have to use perfume or cologne and sexy clothing. Light relaxing candles that smell divine. Close your eyes and stroke your partner’s hair. Put on some light music that is romantic. Feed each other some of your favorite foods. It can be a wonderful way to use all senses to reconnect.

Pretend that you just met

If you have been together for a bit and need to rekindle, sometimes you just need to get to know each other again. Talk about interests and hobbies or things that you never have known about each other. It is a wonderful way to rekindle a romance and learn new things about each other.

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Take a break from life – do something fun

The everyday life can become tedious and it can be fun to just go to an amusement park, a sporting event, go to the batting cages or play miniature golf. Challenge each other while playing games and have fun little bets in the case that one of you wins. This is a fun and exciting way to put the spice back into your relationship.

DVR your partner’s favorite movie or TV show

When you do not have the time to spend at home or cuddled up watching your favorite shows together, you can take a gesture every now and then in order to show your significant other that you were trying to be thoughtful when you know that their favorite show or movie was going to be on air.

Watch dirty movies together

If you are into it, you can spice up a relationship in a not-so-romantic way by watching a dirty movie together. Some people may able to bond over the experience of eroticism. Some might just be able to laugh about it.

Hi! I'm Maya Taylor. I'm glad to have the opportunity to share my thoughts and experiences through this blog. I'm a couples and relationships counselor since 2008. My friends call me "relationships therapist". I'm passionate with life and I believe that life is meaningless without love. Hope to have a great communication through!