A relationship is always exciting at the beginning. You’re learning about each other and experiencing new adventures together. Over time, that excitement can fizzle out and you’re left feeling deflated and uninterested. It’s the moment when nothing is fun enough and the daily routine conquers your relationship. Reevaluate your personal life, by considering all the signs of a boring relationship listed below.
Signs Of A Boring Relationship
You’d rather watch TV than hang out with your partner
Remember when you first met and you couldn’t bear to part from your better half? If you find yourself dreaming about going home to your comfy couch and television rather than your significant other, move on to something that excites you.
The passion has dwindled
Intimacy is an important part of any romantic relationship. The bedroom is the one place a couple can deeply connect, without any interruptions. If all you’ve been doing is sleeping in your bed the past few months, that’s a telltale sign of a relationship severely lacking in the intimacy department.
You don’t see each other often
In the beginning, new couples can’t wait to spend time with each other and often cancel other plans to see their sweetheart. If you’ve been finding yourself communicating with your significant other via text or social media more than in person, try shutting off the phones for a while and scheduling a date night. If that doesn’t reignite the spark, it might be time to move on.
You have a hard time communicating with each other
Communication is a crucial part of a relationship. Many disagreements are triggered by miscommunication with one partner thinking the wrong thing about something their partner said or did.
When an argument comes up, tackle it with open dialogue and no finger pointing. If you can’t effectively communicate and one or both of you always shut down in an argument, it won’t work.
You always fight about the same things
When a disagreement arises, it takes hard work from both parties to address and correct the situation. Without intervention, the same argument will continue to occur over and over again. These situations only lead to resentment between the two parties.
One partner might think the other isn’t trying enough while the other partner feels they are being forced to change. Couples counseling can assist those struggling with effective communication and recurring disagreements. A therapist can also offer solutions to feelings of boredom within the relationship.
You don’t have any fun together
Enjoying time spent with your significant other is extremely important to an intimate relationship. It is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with potentially. If things are boring already and lacking any fun, imagine how things will be fifty years from now.
There are many ways to add fun back into your relationship, but both parties need to be committed to putting in the hard work to make the relationship successful.
You’ve been seeking happiness outside of the relationship
A major warning sign that you are in a monotonous relationship is when you start scrolling through your exes social media or talking to other people in a flirtatious manner.
If you find yourself Facebook stalking your ex or searching for potential hookups on Instagram, it might be time to take a long look at your relationship and whether or not you’re feeling fulfilled physically and emotionally.
You’ve stopped caring about the details
You used to want to know every single detail about your significant other’s day. Now, you really could care less. You don’t bother asking about work or their family or extracurricular activities.
If you find yourself wondering when the last time you asked your partner how their day was, you might need to rethink why you are even in this relationship in the first place.
It’s hard to find something to discuss
When a couple has nothing to talk about, it can make a relationship incredibly boring. Maybe you don’t have as many things in common as you initially thought. Perhaps now that the newness of the relationship has worn off, you’ve found that you’re searching for things to discuss with your partner.
Mutual likes and interests are a crucial component to any good relationship. While opposites do attract, they don’t necessarily work for the long haul. If you’ve tried everything to start a conversation with your significant other but are consistently hitting a brick wall, reevaluate whether you should continue in this relationship.
When boredom starts to enter your relationship…
…happiness quickly starts to fade. Resentment will begin to settle in unless issues are addressed. The relationship will eventually become beyond saving. Use these signs as a direction on where you’re relationship might be headed.