Flirt With a Guy over Text the Right Way

With so many communications solutions, flirting with a guy can happen over text messages by using one of many available chat and messaging platforms or even social media. The following tips can be used whether you are flirting with a guy you are already seeing or a guy you have just met through the internet.
Flirting over text with a guy has some obvious benefits that you should take advantage of:

  1. You can make your inquiry questions without meeting him.
  2. You can get the time to think before you reply.
  3. You are not talking face to face, so your embarrassment is not exposed to him.

By following these tips to flirt with a guy over text, not only can you be sure that you have done it the right way but you can also avoid embarrassment during your flirting. In the end flirting has two goals:

  1. To learn more about him,
  2. To attract his attention, raise his interest and explode his imagination until you meet again.

If you are not used to flirting with a guy over text, these smart tips will definitely help you and make it easier for you to follow. Let’s check them one by one.

12 Tips to Flirt With a Guy over Text

1. Don’t push it too much at the start.

Take it easy. Sending you a message doesn’t mean he wants to marry you! He just makes the first step and now it’s in your hand to make his curiosity and imagination explode! Pushing it too much will bring the opposite results. Showing him that you are cool enough will excite his interest in you.

2. Be enigmatic.

An enigmatic attitude in your text can boost your charisma! Men are always like that. They are always interested with something mysterious. The more mysterious something is, the more curious they are which will lead them to do more in order to reveal it. By being enigmatic, you are actually luring him to move forward step by step.

3. Wait a bit before your next response.

Don’t rush to answer. If you always respond in seconds after receiving his message, it means that you are desperate and needy. Men don’t like women who seem like this. They believe that they will not have a space to breathe. Honestly they have the right to believe it. Playing it a bit hard to get, will surely make this flirting become more challenging for men. As men are born with the nature to tame, they will surely be more interested in taming the challenging you.

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4. Do not get mad if he replies you late.

Life is not only about texting. People have lots of things to do, so does the guy you are flirting with. Don’t get mad although he replies you late. Let him do his routines and finish some of important matters before replying you. Give him enough space. This way, he will be more interested in you. By doing this, you let him realize that you are an understanding and patient person. Who doesn’t like to be around a patient and understanding person?

5. Don’t always be the one who starts the chat.

You may wonder why you shouldn’t always be the one to chat him first. It’s simply because you look needy and very aggressive. Remember, needy girls are BORING and aggressive girls are SCARY. Text him first on the first 3 or 4 days. Then wait for him to text first the other days. Be patient. Doing this can also be a good measurement to know whether a guy has interest in you or not. Why spending much time on a guy who has no interest in you?

6. Be a little “naughty”.

Be a little “naughty” doesn’t mean that you should talk about sex! It means that you can be freer and more expressive in voicing your opinion or in answering questions. Men sometimes find girls who text in a very polite and formal way boring. Be a little naughty. Don’t hesitate and be too shy. Be brave yet respectable. A girl who can act properly will gain more respect from the guy she likes.

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7. Don’t start an argument.

It’s just ridiculous! He is on embarrassment too! When you flirt with a guy over text messages, never start an argument even for once. Texting is not about winning or losing. You may give your opinion without any hesitation. But it doesn’t mean that your opinion is always the right one. He won’t consider you as a smart girl by arguing. But he will see you as a stubborn annoying girl that doesn’t worth his interest.

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8. Text for his interests too.

It’s very important to make some inquiring questions about his hobbies and his interests. This will show him that you are also interested in him and he is not wasting his time replying you. It will also help you to understand his personality better.

9. Be yourself.

During chatting, don’t give too much pressure to yourself. If you aren’t humorous, don’t force yourself to be humorous. He may like the humorous you in the chatting, but the real you won’t impress and may even disappoint him on the first meeting. Just be yourself. As long as you are comfortable with yourself, you can shine in your own way. One more thing, be friendly. Everyone likes a friendly girl.

10. Compliments can help you more, but don’t over flirt.

Don’t be afraid to compliment him, but don’t overdo it. Do it once in a while and in a right context will be for good. Too much complimenting will make him think that it’s your usual game. That way, it seems that there will be nothing special with your compliments about him.

11. Don’t look too desperate.

Texting one hundred questions in a row will destroy everything you have achieved until now. Don’t look desperate even if you are. Moreover, avoid using many question marks in your questions and do the same with exclamation marks. Finally the use of too many emoticons will have similar results. The less you use emoticons, the more elegant and less childish you will look. Knowing when to ask and when to stop will be very good to your flirting.

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12. Don’t talk too much about yourself.

Give him a chance to tell about himself. Texting is a 2 way communication. It is about exchanging information so that both of you can understand each other better. What is the point of texting a guy if it’s all about telling yourself? Not only will he be bored with the topic, he may also lose the interest in you at once.

In conclusion, everyone can flirt with the guy over text, but doing it properly is another thing. Follow the flirting tips above and your flirting process will bring you to a higher level in your relationship unless he isn’t interested in you. So good luck with your flirting.

Hi! I'm Maya Taylor. I'm glad to have the opportunity to share my thoughts and experiences through this blog. I'm a couples and relationships counselor since 2008. My friends call me "relationships therapist". I'm passionate with life and I believe that life is meaningless without love. Hope to have a great communication through!