Are you feeling unlovable? Practically everyone has been there at one time or another. But not being in a relationship and being unlovable have nothing to do with each other.
As a matter of fact, being single means you have the freedom to explore who you want to be and the kind of life you want to live.
So embrace this amazing season of life while you put the following truths into practice.
1. You Have Special Qualities
You can find something good in yourself. Take a long hard look and think about your positive qualities.
⇒ What kind of compliments have you been given?
⇒ Do people say you have a big heart?
⇒ Do they think you’re a good listener?
⇒ Do they see you pitch in when someone needs help?
⇒ Why are you special?
Identify your good qualities, and use this time in your life to make them even better.
2. There is Someone Special For You
When the time is right, your path will cross with someone who sees and appreciates your own special unique self. And that’s worth waiting for. How sad life would be if we chose to change ourselves for someone just so we could be with them.
Be your best self, your true self, and live the life that’s important to you. Along the way, you will meet that special someone.
3. Comparing Yourself to Others is Not a Good Idea
Every human being on the planet is different, and what a refreshing thought that is. When you notice how smart, pretty, kind, or talented someone is, remind yourself that you have good qualities too.
Dare to be yourself. You are on a journey that no one else will travel. Let those good qualities shine. Others will appreciate you for it.
[read also: Dealing With The Pain Of Breaking Up With The One You Love]
4. Social Media Deceives
When you feel unlovable, the worst place to go is social media. Think about it. When you post on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc., you make life seem great. Your photos are posed, cropped, and filtered so that they aren’t reflecting reality. Others do the same.
We tend to share the good things in life holding back the messy parts. Your reality will often not measure up to someone else’s fantasy.
5. Nobody is Perfect
We all know someone who seems to always know just what to say and do. But in reality, no one is perfect; we all have flaws. That doesn’t make us unlovable.
In fact our flaws are what unite us, helping us realize that everyone makes mistakes. Learn to laugh at yourself when you mess up. Share your foibles. They make you lovable.
6. You Need to Accept Yourself
We all get down on ourselves from time to time, sometimes so much that we feel unlovable. Everyone has that little voice inside that critiques everything we do, and sometimes that little voice is harsh.
But the truth is you will be content when you accept who you are as a person and learn to love yourself. Turn off that negative banter and choose to focus on your positive traits.
7. You Are Loved
There are people in your life who love you, and this automatically makes you lovable. Do you have parents, siblings, other relatives, friends, teachers, coworkers, or even a dog or cat who accept you just the way you are?
If they think you’re lovable, then those who take the time to get to know you will see you as worthy of love too.
8. Count Your Blessings
If you’re still feeling unlovable, stop and take stock of the blessings in your life. Do you have a good job? A place to live? Are you able to get out of bed each day? Some people can’t say yes to these basic necessities.
Choose to look at life from a perspective of feeling blessed. Shoo away the negativity, and enjoy being you. There’s no one else exactly like you, and that’s a wonderful thought.